IN THE BEGINNING

The Aboriginal Australians’ dreamtime legend tells of the Rainbow Serpent, the deity responsible for creating their land. Emerging from within the earth and slithering across the surface, its movements created the rivers and mountains. As it ascended to the sky, its multihued scales fell to the earth as opals. 

Scientifically, Australian opals were formed during the Cretaceous period, when dinosaurs roamed, and the earth was covered in temperate rainforests and lush plant life. Cracks within sedimentary rocks like sandstone and mudstone allowed in silica-rich water that settled and hardened over time. Silica is the most abundant mineral in the earth's crust. In its crystalline form, it can be used in concrete, mortar, bricks, tiles, ceramics, and glass. In its amorphous form, it creates volcanic glass and opals. Crystalline structures have order and patterns. Amorphous structures don't. The hardened sediment that developed into opals lacks these organized chemical compositions, as do their fellow mineraloid gemstones obsidian, amber, and jet.

THEY COME FROM THE LAND DOWN UNDER

Because Australia’s opals formed at the end of the Mesozoic era, they are much deeper in the earth’s crust. Australia is the only place on earth where opalized fossils are found. Shells, plant life, and even a marine reptile named Eric the Pliosaur that lived more than 100 million years ago have been found there. Eric was discovered in the famous mining town Coober Pedy. Today, many of the old opal mines there have been converted to vacation rentals. Other well-known areas are White Cliffs, Andamooka, and Lightning Ridge, known for its black opals, considered the most desirable color.

The first opal found on earth was discovered in a cave in Kenya; it dates back to 4,000 years ago and is believed to be an Ethiopian opal. These formed during the Oligocene epoch a mere 20-30 million years ago. Here, silica rich groundwater settled in volcanic rock clefts and then hardened into fiery gemstones. In the mountains of Northern Ethiopia, a vein of opal a meter thick runs for hundreds of kilometers. It's not far from the surface, making extraction relatively easy, which translates to better-priced inventory. Since 2008, these mines have put the town of Wollo on the map for production. Wollo opals from northern Africa tend to be porous and absorb water. In gemspeak, this is called hydrophane. These absorbent stones change color when wet, so wearers should avoid prolonged exposure to water if they want their stone to endure.

Not all opals aren't gemstones. Those lacking “play of light” are called common opals or “potch.” They're an essential ingredient of diatomite, which is used industrially in insulation, filters, paint, abrasives, and absorbents. Opalized diatomite is sold in crystal shops and is used as a backing for its gemstone relative, the precious opal. 

There are several different types of precious opals:

• Black opals are the highest valued. Their darkness adds extra vibrancy to the opal’s “play of light” effect.
• Boulder opals are those found within ironstone rocks. These stones are usually cut with a flat top and have a nebulous organic shape. They usually come with their ironstone backing still attached. Since this adds weight, Boulder opals are not valued by carat (the measure of weight for gemstones) like most faceted stones.
• White opals have pale backdrops that don't contrast and amplify color as much as black opals but give a softer parade of light. 
• Crystal opals are clear, with no color backing to reflect light to the surface. Instead, they hold the fireworks of colors within their glassy suspension.
• And finally there’s the fire opal, which has red hues and color that usually goes all the way through the stone. These are the only opals that get faceted. All other opals are cut in cabochon.

THE STUFF LEGENDS ARE MADE OF

The history of mankind’s relationship with precious gemstones is punctuated by stories of love, greed, and loss. Circa 35 BC, Roman general Mark Antony admired an opal worn by fellow politician Nonius and offered the Senator several times its value in the hopes of acquiring it and presenting it as a gift to his lover Cleopatra. When Nonius refused, Mark Antony had him banished from Rome, forcing Nonius to leave his family and all his possessions behind, save for his precious opal, and live in exile. Napoleon was also an opal fan. He gifted a legendary necklace named The Burning of Troy to his first wife Josephine. (The second wife was gifted the emerald necklace recently stolen from the Louvre.) This 700-carat black opal with red fire jewel went missing after her passing and reappeared 100 years later around the time of WWI. It was briefly owned by the city of Austria but vanished at the start of WWII; it hasn't been seen since. For a brief time during the Victorian era, opals were thought to bring bad luck. In Walter Scott’s 1829 gothic novel, Anne of Geierstein, the main character Lady Hermione wears an opal talisman that changes colors according to her mood. At one point, during a christening, a splash of holy water lands on the stone, causing the color to vanish. Lady Hermione collapses on the floor and is brought back to her room where her health quickly deteriorates until all that is left of her is a small pile of ashes. Queen Victoria’s love of opals helped restore them to fashion. She and many in her court wore opal jewelry. Her great-great-granddaughter Queen Elizabeth II traveled to Australia on her coronation tour and was gifted the famous Andamooka Opal necklace and earrings. The center stone was a 203-carat white opal set in palladium. It was named for the mine of its origin.

At Shipwreck, our opal jewelry include the Indian Ocean pieces. We set black Australian doublets inside a gold bezel wall. This is surrounded by a halo of emeralds. The center stone represents the Indian Ocean (opal) rising over the Maldive Islands (emeralds) below.

F.A.F.O.

Opals, for all their beauty, are not hard stones. On the Mohs scale, they come in at 5.5-6.5.

House dust is actually harder, scoring a 7. Tooth enamel is a 5. As mentioned before, potch opals can be used to back other opals and make them thicker and harder. When a stone is fortified with a backing, it's called a doublet. A less valuable version is called a triplet, wherein a slice of opal is placed between a dark backing and a clear lens made from glass or resin. 

In general, the safest way to wear opals is in earrings and necklaces. Rings can be worn with respect. Opals in bracelets are a waste of beautiful stones, as it's not a question of if, but when, it will break. 

Long associated with nobility, sapphires are a regal gem that have traditionally symbolized wisdom, virtue, and sincerity. They’ve adorned ceremonial jewelry for royal families since the Middle Ages, with coronation crowns featuring large sapphires. They were a special favorite of Queen Victoria, who received a sapphire-and-diamond brooch set in gold from her betrothed in 1840, while the infamous Duchess of Windsor Wallis Simpson asked Cartier in 1949 to design a brooch composed of a diamond-and-sapphire dotted platinum panther atop a 152-carat cashmere sapphire.

More recently in 1981, the Princess of Wales and Prince Charles broke from tradition and, instead of a bespoke piece, purchased an engagement ring from the Garrard catalog. Worth $37,500 at the time, it featured a 12-carat sapphire from Sri Lanka set in 18-carat white gold and surrounded by 14 solitaire diamonds. Any member of the public could purchase the same ring, which supported Lady Diana’s sobriquet as “the people’s princess.”

Indeed, anyone can rock the rock; after all, it’s the birthstone of those born in September. Read on to learn more about this gemstone — its makeup, where to find it, what makes it special, and how to care for it.

A Dive into the Molten Core

Three types of rock make up the Earth’s crust, with pre-existing rocks like igneous and sedimentary transformed by intense heat, pressure, and chemical fluids deep in the planet’s core. Called metamorphism, the process alters the rocks’ mineralogy, texture (called foliation or layers), and chemistry, yielding new minerals like corundum.

A crystalline version of aluminum oxide, corundum is naturally transparent — until it interacts with transitional metals like titanium and vanadium. When aluminum oxide mixes with chromium, for example, it turns red, giving us rubies. When it mixes with other metals, we get sapphires.

But you’d be remiss in thinking that all sapphires are blue. Depending on the transition metal that mixes with aluminum oxide, corundum can produce yellow, green, or other colored sapphires. When a sapphire features two or more colors in a single stone, it’s known as a particolored sapphire. Particolored sapphires can’t be grown in a lab; they only occur organically — a mic drop from Mother Earth, if you will. When corundum is pink-orange, it’s known as a padparadscha sapphire, which is the rarest of all those that occur naturally. While they can be produced synthetically, padparadscha sapphires found in the wild fetch much higher prices.

Jewel of the Sahara, Jungle, and . . . Mountain States?

Because metamorphic rocks are found throughout the Earth’s mantle, sapphires can be mined in multiple countries from Afghanistan and Kenya to Columbia, Vietnam, and, in the United States, Montana.

The various geographies lend the sapphires their defining characters. For instance, in 1880, a landslide in India led to the discovery of some of the most beautiful blue sapphires formed by the collision of the Eurasian and Indian tectonic plates, which birthed the Himalayan Mountains. From 1882 to 1887, the mines there were worked so hard that the sapphires were nearly depleted.

And in Sri Lanka, formerly known as Ceylon, sapphires have been a staple since at least 1000 BCE, with other gemstones also found on the island nation. In fact, it has so many that it’s known historically as Ranadeepa, which means “Gem Island” in Sanskrit. The country is perhaps most famous for its padparadscha — Sinhalese for “lotus flower” — sapphires and is historically a leading exporter of the gem.

Today, Madagascar features the largest belt of sapphires. Discovered in the Illakaka region in the mid-1990s, the gemstone stoked an industry frenzy that grew Illakaka from a population of 50 to upwards of 30,000. Madagascar is now one of the largest producers of sapphires in the world.

Panning for gold in Madagascar

How to Care for Sapphires

If sapphires are best known for their blue hue, they may be least known for another defining characteristic: their hardness. In fact, sapphires are second only to diamonds on the Mohs scale, which measures the hardness of minerals, i.e., their ability to scratch softer materials. In the jewelry world, that means sapphires don't have what's known in the trade as "cleavage," so they're highly unlikely to break when struck. That characteristic makes them an excellent choice for rings that are subject to daily wear, such as our Sylvia Band.

Keep in mind, though, that sapphires are often treated to enhance their clarity or color. A common practice is heat treatment whereby the gemstones are exposed to temperatures over 1800° for several days. The process intensifies the color and heightens the gem’s clarity.

Treatments less accepted in the trade include lattice diffusion and fracture filling. When diffused, sapphires are heated and different elements introduced to impart greater color saturation. Beryllium, for example, can make a sapphire appear more orange or similar to the highly prized padparadscha sapphire. While the process may yield a deeper color to the eye, the diffusion is so shallow that what seems saturated could lessen dramatically if the stone is chipped or recut.

Fracture-filling sapphires, on the other hand, involves inserting oils, resin, and glass into the gem’s hollow spaces. It’s a less reputable treatment with no guarantee to last; they can be damaged by even mild acids like lemon juice.

Be sure, then, to ask if the sapphire you purchase is natural or synthetic, which will indicate its value, as well as how it’s been treated. Sapphires that have been heat-treated or subjected to lattice diffusion can take ultrasonic or steam cleaning, while fracture-filled or dyed sapphires should only be cleaned with a damp cloth. Warm, soapy water should be fine for all kinds of sapphires regardless of origin or treatment.

Saving the Best for Last

Sapphires are gemstones worth admiration, but it’s the star sapphire that really blows our hair back. They form when microscopic needles of titanium oxide called rutile grow within the crystal as it forms. The presence of rutile within the crystal bends the light, causing a star-like effect called asterism, which you can see in our Cielo Ring.

The first gemstone that our designer Rebekah Harris fell in love with was a sapphire. For her, the play of light on their surface is like a constant communication with the cosmos. Otherworldly, sapphires are so much more than just a beautiful gem, with luminaries such as silent film star Mary Pickford also in awe of their magic. She gifted the one given to her by husband Douglas Fairbanks to the Smithsonian, while actor William Powell gave jewelry featuring star sapphires to actresses Carole Lombard and Jean Harlow.

But perhaps the most well-known star sapphire is the Black Star of Queensland, worn by singer and actress Cher on The Sonny & Cher Comedy Hour in 1971. The circular pendant hung from a tiered diamond necklace while Cher performed a cover of “Close to You” by The Carpenters. Draped in diamond-cluster drop earrings and sporting stacks of diamond rings and Art Deco-style diamond bracelets on each wrist, Cher had more than a million-dollars worth of jewelry on her — and looked like a million bucks herself.

Whether you were gifted jewelry, inherited it,  purchased it, or commissioned something for yourself, you’ll want to care for it so that it retains the same beautiful finish and look it had on the day you got it.

Some background and basics 

If your jewelry is made of silver and hasn’t been worn in a while, it might turn a darker brown to black color. This is called oxidation: the exposure of the surface to oxygen. Oxygen causes steel to rust, silver to tarnish, and brass to patina, and we require it to breathe and stay alive! How crazy is that?

Many people react to metal changing colors when they wear it and blame the metal; however, it’s generally the metal reacting to the wearer and the environment. Your hormones, salinity, acidity, and sweat all interact with the metal, and those interactions can create a dark spot where your jewelry and skin touch.

Often if you wear silver jewelry, your body oils will keep it from tarnishing, but not everyone’s chemistry is compatible with silver. Even if it is, exposure to harsh cleaning products, heat, humidity, and sweat can cause it to react and tarnish. If your body chemistry and silver work well together, regularly wearing the jewelry can actually polish the silver.

Keep in mind too that if you wear your jewelry while swimming in chlorinated or salt water, it will hasten oxidization. Chlorine will also weaken your rings, bracelets, and so on. Salt water can degrade silver and gold, too, with both chlorinated and salt water dulling the luster of silver and yellow as opposed to rose gold, which is especially affected. If you’re not the type to polish your jewelry or want it to keep its gleam, remove the item before entering the water.

This list sounds like a lot of things to avoid, but silver is a nice, everyday metal and has been worn and appreciated since it was first mined in 4000 BCE.

At Shipwreck, we love to work with the oxidation of silver as a design tool. We often apply a solution to darken the metal, allowing it to penetrate the lower levels of its detail and then polish the higher surfaces to create contrast and definition. This shiny mix of blackened and well-polished silver is the basis of rock-and-roll silver style.

Gold is old . . . Well, it’s “Old—er” than silver and dates back to around 4600 BCE, according to finds at the Varna Necropolis in Bulgaria. Pure gold can transfer electric current and doesn’t tarnish, so it has uses in electronics, medicine, and aerospace, as well as jewelry. Generally, 24 karat gold jewelry is very soft, and cultures that wear it are mainly in the Middle and Far East. Most of Europe and Asia opt for 18K gold. The United States wears a lot of 14K. It’s kind of like dark chocolate and milk chocolate: Europe and Asia only consider dark chocolate worth eating and 18k gold worth wearing. The US is fine with milk chocolate and 14K gold.

When you see 10K, 14K, and 18K, it means the gold is alloyed with other metals to make it more durable. Gold can also be alloyed to result in different colors; for example, rose gold is alloyed with copper and silver. With the addition of other metals to gold, it does make it slightly more susceptible to tarnish. The lower the karat, the more possible it is to tarnish.  

At Shipwreck, we often use 10K, which has more silver alloy in it, so sometimes we can get the gold to show more detail by using oxidation as a design tool. We generally never work with white gold unless requested. White gold tends to have a dull finish. In the jewelry industry, white gold is often plated with rhodium, which is in the platinum family. Because it’s not great for the environment and will not last, we try to avoid anything that requires plating.

Keeping it simple 

When it comes to cleaning your jewelry, we recommend keeping it simple. One of the best and affordable ways is to purchase a soft toothbrush. An old toothbrush might contain residual mild abrasives that can scratch your jewelry, so best to invest in a new one.

Then, using warm water and a gentle dish soap like Dawn, brush your jewelry like you would your teeth.  The toothbrush and Dawn combo work well for working around stone settings and details. For polishing the surface metal, we recommend Sunshine polishing cloths, which are infused with a solution for removing dirt, grime, and fingerprints from the jewelry’s surface. The cloths will turn black after use, but they can be reused, so hang on to them. Keep them in the container they came in or a Ziploc bag; you can use them many times before retiring them.

Beware of modern-day snake oils

The Internet offers many respectable seeming products that claim to clean jewelry. There are many unknown chemicals in these products, and we don’t recommend using your jewelry to see if they work or not. We’ve seen some strange things, like gold jewelry appearing silver because an unknown product “cleaned” the surface. 

There are many personal ultrasonic machines available as well. These machines can ruin beautiful stones like opals, pearls, moonstones, and cameos, which are among our favorite stones to work with.

Avoid ultrasonic machines for personal use if you can.

Safeguarding your stones

It's also advisable to remove jewelry before engaging in contact sports, bowling, or even gardening. One woman in Canada lost her wedding ring while gardening and found it thirteen years later on a carrot she pulled from the ground.

Resist the urge to key your ex’s car with your diamond too. Even diamonds and sapphires have the potential to chip or be knocked loose from their settings.

Here at Shipwreck Montauk, we often use coral and pearls in our designs, but neither rate very high on the Mohs scale of hardness. In fact, the cameo and Osmena rings literally feature shells, and their hardness is on par with your teeth, so if it’s an activity or use that would break your teeth, it’s likely to do the same to your jewelry. Avoid it at all costs.

Point Break for jewelry

Even jewelry has a breaking point. Big pieces like cuff bracelets seem tough but are often the most broken jewelry. Many people want them tighter on their wrists, so they bend them. That’s a no-no. Bending metal back and forth will cause it to weaken and break. Check out this great video that explains how to slide on a cuff bracelet.

If you’re interested in ordering a bracelet from Shipwreck Montauk but feel like you have a nonstandard wrist size, please get in touch. We ask for measurements of your wrist width and thickness to alter the form. Not every bracelet can accommodate larger and smaller wrists. We’re happy to customize when possible.

Clasps are another liability on jewelry, despite how well necklaces are made. Through the years, we’ve weeded out the majority of those that don’t hold up, but nothing is perfect. Should the clasp on jewelry you purchased from us break, email us at info@shipwreckmontauk.com, and we’ll do our best to repair or replace it for you.

I never understood the interest in diamonds until a certain one came across my path. Friends were getting married, and the groom had inherited an Art Deco engagement ring and band from his favorite aunt. Both were modest and dated back to the 1920s. The diamond on the engagement ring wasn’t especially big, but boy, did that thing make itself known, shooting what seemed like purple and red beams at me. 

The experience made me ask what made that little diamond have such Big Diamond Energy? The answer taught me what I really loved: the imperfect, hand-cut charm I’ve come to think of as the best valued diamonds with which to design and craft.

A turn to history

The discovery of diamonds is believed to go all the way back to the 4th century in India. After the fall of the Roman Empire, the West entered the Dark Ages. With the rise of Christianity, religious figures looked down on the superstitions that surrounded early diamond jewelry, which fell out of favor in the West but continued to be in use in the Hindu and Muslim East.  Their light could not be dimmed forever, and 1,000 years later, diamond appreciation found its way back to Europe as it rolled into the Renaissance.

Then, during the Enlightenment, as ships criss-crossed the Atlantic between the New and Old Worlds, Brazil became the main supplier of diamonds. Early cuts from this era were called “old mine” and were more square in shape. As the 1800s progressed, the Old European and transitional cut shapes — the more familiar round shapes we know now — became more popular. (You see them in today’s antique jewelry market.)

As the Civil War ended in the United States, the Kimberly deposits in South Africa were discovered. The descent into darkness starts here actually and metaphorically. By this time, surface mining had given way to underground mining. Soon, De Beers, founded by two Afrikaners, controlled nearly 90% of the world’s diamond mining, selling the myth of manufactured scarcity to the world.

The ubiquitous 58-faceted brilliant cut appeared in the 1940s as did the famous slogan, “Diamonds are forever.” Machines for diamond-shaping came into use in the 1970s, and by the 1990s, the vast majority of diamonds were cut by machines. Technology helped map geologic conditions that could yield diamond deposits worldwide, leading to the opening of mines in Australia. Technological advancements also brought lasers to the cutting table,  offering a marriage of convenience and conformity.

By 2000, mines opened near Earth’s magnetic North Pole (read: Canada). They operate outside of the De Beers empire. The latest chapter in the diamond story? Lab-grown diamonds. They match the questionably mined “perfect” diamonds of the late 20th century. 

Character over perfection

“Perfect is the enemy of the good,” wrote the philosopher Voltaire, and I couldn’t agree more. Once lasers replaced hands, diamond cuts became about maximum yield. The human hands that had brought the best character of the Art Deco diamond to the 

surface and so moved me had been devalued by an ethos that elevated profit over the human touch.

Today, lab-grown diamonds ride the technological tsunami of our modern world, where people eliminate organic sources and manufacture the product themselves. These man-made, lab-grown rocks are more reasonably priced and promoted as more ethical because they’re not extracted from the earth and have no human conflicts attached to them, but like bitcoin mining and AI data centers, they take an incredible amount of energy. The perfected end product is indistinguishable from the top-rated mined diamonds that max out the 3 Cs— color, clarity, and cut — of the graded diamond world.

What stone(s) for my ceremonial jewelry?

As a '90s kid, the reuse, reduce, recycle mantra was drilled into my head. So I would recommend starting with your family to see if they have any diamonds or sapphires not being appreciated. 

If you do not have this luxury and want to reduce and recycle, you can shop for an antique stone. The oldest diamonds traded in the Antique circuit date back to the 1700s and feature Old Mine cuts. The Old European and transitional cuts are also available and easier to find. (Think estate sales, antique stores, auctions, and retailers of antique jewelry..) You may also consider rose-cut diamonds, which, like Old Mine diamonds, were popular during the Georgian and Victorian eras and came from India. Unlike traditionally cut diamonds — any jewelry that includes pavilions — rose-cut diamonds can be worn lower on the finger because their settings don’t have to be elevated to accommodate the culet, the point at the bottom of the diamond where the pavilion facets meet. Rose-cut diamonds reflect light subtly instead of blinding people with their bling. (Think 1990s headlights versus LED lights) They’re super comfortable to wear, and if you’re into that stone-skin contact-energy, you can have the diamond touch your finger. 

If you really want a new stone to call your own, consider one that comes from Canadian diamond mines like Diavik and Ekati. They’re outside of DeBeers control, are mindful of the First Nations people, and work to tend the land as best they can.

Sapphires are another great alternative to diamonds. Generally the choice of the royal family, they come in a surprising range of colors; and there are mines in Montana! Two-tone Parti sapphires display multiple colors within a single stone. Sapphires are also almost as hard as diamonds. They’re a 9 on the Mohs hardness scale, while diamonds are a 10.

A word about wedding bands

Wedding bands really shouldn’t be silver. Silver is a soft metal, so it’s more easily damaged, and silver jewelry doesn't have nearly as high a resale value as gold.

If the groom doesn’t care for yellow gold, white gold is an option but remember that white gold is often plated with rhodium, because white gold is kind of dull even after being polished. Unless requested, at Shipwreck Montauk, we never plate over white gold.

If yellow gold isn’t your cup of tea either, try a mild 10k yellow gold with a brushed finish instead of a high polish. You can also go with platinum, which is a darker silver and a dull color but so strong you can open bottles with it, and your partner can make sad jokes about that being the way you honor your marriage.

The dullness of platinum rings may appeal to men, because many don’t want to wear a shiny object. Instead, they opt for rings with an industrial vibe, like titanium rings because they come in a more masculine  black. They’re often thick rings, though, so for those not used to wearing jewelry, they can feel like handcuffs. (No one wants their marriage to feel like prison, right?) Wedding bands should feel comfortable and wear like shadows.

We further advise couples to engrave a special message inside their rings to further bond them. If no phrase comes to mind, consider engraving your wedding date, so you never forget your anniversary.

Jewelry for active people

Besides variables like stones, their cut, provenance, and type of metal, you should also keep in mind how active you or the person receiving a gift of jewelry may be. If you purchase a ring with stones held by prongs, they may be more easily wrecked in day-to-day life.

Jewelry featuring stones held by prongs may have worked for women in the 1950s and maybe today’s trad wives but no more. People don’t play traditional gender roles as often. Women don’t spend all their time cooking meals, tending to children, or making casseroles and aspics for husbands and dinner parties. They have jobs, work out, garden. If they wear rings with prongs, the jewelry could scratch the faces of their loved ones and pets, catch on clothing, and grow loose more quickly than jewelry with bezel or channel settings.

Old school jewelers may push you toward rings with prong-held jewels and reassure you that you can always bring them back in to be retipped and checked to ensure their security. It’s a great way to lure you back to the store to buy more jewelry. But what if your ring was built to last a very, very long time, not snag on clothing, scratch your kids face, or snap off, loosening the jewels?

But let’s face it: Active people lose a lot of jewelry or damage them in some way. A good way to prepare is to get key pieces molded or 3D-scanned so that, if you lose them, you can get them reproduced more easily.

Jewelry as investment 

Unless it’s costume jewelry, jewelry can be an investment, and if we’re talking wedding rings, then it’s your first investment as a couple.

And I’ve heard it said that wedding rings should equal the value of two months’ salary — what unadulterated marketing hogwash. Do the best with what you have, and if you can’t afford much, go small. Buy durable stones like diamonds or sapphires that don’t break easily, because it’s good to purchase jewelry that will retain or build value. Commit to real materials with enduring value, like gold. Hopefully, you’ll never have to melt down your jewelry, but if you do, at least it will be worth something beyond the memories it holds.

I hope this manifesto of sorts helps you avoid bad decisions as you shop for jewelry. We’re not responsible for the choice you make for a partner.